If you are the least bit empathetic and prone to want to help others, it is very easy to be pulled into another person’s dysfunction. It can be especially detrimental if they are stuck in a Groundhog Day universe of their own making, where they refuse to see that the problem keeps recurring because they refuse to make the required internal changes. In those cases, sometimes it’s better to walk away. But sometimes you can’t; sometimes the other person is a family member or someone you work with, and walking away is out of the question. So what do you do? How do you stay sane and happy when those around you are not?
You don’t internalize their dysfunction.
You stay calm as they rant and rave. You empathize, but you don’t internalize. You understand, but you don’t internalize. You want to help, and you do what you can, but you don’t internalize.Read more →
Stuff happens. Good stuff and bad stuff. All day, every day. To everyone. No one is immune. And when it comes to the bad stuff, there are two kinds of people: Those who stress about it and those who don’t. Those who stress about it get anxious, worried, insecure, angry, and paralyzed with fear. Those who don’t stress just deal with the bad stuff and keep moving. What do they know that the others don’t? Why do they know how to live a stress-free life?
The answer is simple. They see stress for what it is and decide that they won’t take part in it.
I have a couple of dear friends who are deathly afraid of being alone. They worry about it. They cry—hard—when they think about it. The source of this fear started when they were very young; their parents were not loving and literally made them feel worthless. That feeling of worthlessness stayed with them into adulthood, and affected all of their decisions and relationships.
What does this have to do with “learning more to earn more”? A lot. Read more →
“These are the times that try men’s souls.” – Thomas Paine
What is your dream? Where are you going? What do you want to accomplish before you leave this earth?
These are questions that you don’t ask yourself much as you navigate through your everyday life. But as you get older, and the time you have left gets shorter, you get more serious about it. Or, you just give up. Read more →
I’ve come to define jerks simply as people who make life more difficult for other people. Kind people—the non-jerks in the world—do just the opposite. They endeavor to make life easier for others.
Working with jerks is a painful mess that is never fun nor rewarding; makes you want to give up; frustrates the heck out of you; and keeps you from doing your best work. In short, working with jerks makes kind people unhappy.
There is really only one, very short piece of advice I have to give you about how to work with jerks:
You’ve decided to start your own business. Great! Welcome to the club, populated with some of the most interesting and kind people you’ll ever meet.
Here’s what no one else will tell you when you search for advice about “how to start a company” or “how to become an entrepreneur”:
CASHFLOW IS KING. From now on, you will never have enough money to grow as fast as you want to. There will be nail-biting days, every month, where you need to pay for something NOW, and that big check you’re waiting for hasn’t yet arrived.
The truth is, we are all writers now. Even if you are not officially paid to write, your working life will be much more successful if you write well.
There are plenty of sources for grammar, punctuation, and even writing advice, but I want to focus on the things that I’ve not seen written anywhere else—common mistakes and lessons I’ve learned writing thousands of pages/screens of copy and teaching others how to write. Hopefully all this will teach you how to become a more successful writer. Read more →
OK, everybody. Listen up. I want you to succeed. Big time. I want you to figure out what people want, what you can provide, either working for others or for yourself, and then go for it—and succeed. I want you to realize your dreams, feel good about what you’re doing, and live a full, love-filled life. These are my official tips for millennials to succeed in the workplace.
In today’s world, we are surrounded by puffery. Some of the most famous people are famous simply because they set out to be famous. Because it’s easier than ever to take a selfie and broadcast it to the world, they’re making a career out of it. And there are those commercials, selling messages that buzz around us all day as we go about our lives, especially online, where it’s getting pretty difficult to watch or read anything without being interrupted by a commercial message.
Everyone is selling something, whether it be themselves, their point of view, or a product or service. Nothing wrong with that; I’ve been helping people sell and market stuff for years.