Life is a series of tests. If we pass them, we don’t have to take them again; if we don’t, we keep getting the same test repeated until we get it right. Then we can finally move on to the next test.
But there is a little-discussed problem that inhibits our success.
When it’s time for us to tackle a new challenge, or set off in a new direction that excites and inspires us, some part of our brain is saying, “Well, this isn’t going to work because of how you always are.”
We have been “with ourselves” all of our lives, and we know how we used to behave. And we are still thinking of ourselves as the person before the test was passed.
This introduces hesitation and fear into the new adventure, and slows us down.
What’s the solution?
Write down (or type) every test you’ve passed. What you got over; what you learned how to handle; what you’ve managed to accomplish in spite of various obstacles you had to overcome; what you used to do that you simply don’t do anymore; and what you do now that is better.
In my list, the first item would be patience. I have learned how to be calm instead of being anxious. It is my natural reaction now to any problem.
The second item would be “organized and structured.” I have always been quick to take on new adventures, but after sailing across oceans, and as a company owner, my first instinct now at the beginning of any endeavor is to analyze the situation and then build a process that will ensure success.
It’s a pleasant exercise to write these things down. You will find that your list is pretty long and satisfying.
But the best part is that when you’re done, you can look at the list and say out loud, “I’ve passed these tests. These new behaviors are part of who I am now, so I no longer need to fear reverting to them as I move forward. I’m going into the future as the new me, not the old me.”
Here’s to your new positive perspective.
Bona futura!