How to live life to the fullest even though the world is broken

How to live life to the fullest even though the world is broken

How to live life to the fullest even though the world is broken

My husband sums it up this way: “The world has always been going to hell in a handbasket. The trick is to stay out of the handbasket.” He is so right. And this great advice is at the core of, as they say, “living life to the fullest,” which is cliche talk for “how to have a great life.” 

If you spend just 5 minutes a day catching up with the “news,” you can get really bummed. The news, by its very nature, is filled with seemingly unresolvable turmoil. That’s what makes it news; there is a problem that has not yet been solved, and needs to be. 

Problems that have been solved are pretty boring.  Read more

The two keys to success in life: Kindness and common sense

The two keys to success in life: Kindness and common sense

The two keys to success in life: Kindness and common sense

What does “success in life” really look like? It means that you are happy more than you are not; that you love and are loved; that you achieve what you set out to do; and you have very few disappointments. In fact, if you focus on the two main aspects of life that make everything else work, you may end up with no disappointments at all. 

The two key aspects are kindness and common sense.

Kindness rocks

Civilization literally breaks down when there is a lack of kindness. Life as we know it depends almost 100% on people being kind to each other. 

What is kindness, really? Read more

Dealing with difficult people: Beware the soul suckers

Dealing with difficult people: Beware the soul suckers

Dealing with difficult people: Beware the soul suckers

I’ve written about jerks before. I define a jerk as someone who makes life more difficult for others (nice people spend their lives trying to do just the opposite). But on the subject of dealing with difficult people, there is also a certain type of person who will suck the life out of you if you let them. They are not good for us, but for some reason we keep trying to work it out—to help them or “resolve” them. 

Usually it is from some sense of obligation (which they definitely encourage), or a vow or promise we made in the past about our relationship with this person. Or, they are related to us or someone close to us, and it is very difficult to avoid interaction.

Whatever the reason, we stick it out, and over time they literally suck the life out of us.  Read more

How to stay sane and happy when those around you are not

How to stay sane and happy when those around you are not

How to stay sane and happy when those around you are not

If you are the least bit empathetic and prone to want to help others, it is very easy to be pulled into another person’s dysfunction. It can be especially detrimental if they are stuck in a Groundhog Day universe of their own making, where they refuse to see that the problem keeps recurring because they refuse to make the required internal changes. In those cases, sometimes it’s better to walk away. But sometimes you can’t; sometimes the other person is a family member or someone you work with, and walking away is out of the question. So what do you do? How do you stay sane and happy when those around you are not?

You don’t internalize their dysfunction. 

You stay calm as they rant and rave. You empathize, but you don’t internalize. You understand, but you don’t internalize. You want to help, and you do what you can, but you don’t internalize. Read more

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How to live a stress-free life

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Stuff happens. Good stuff and bad stuff. All day, every day. To everyone. No one is immune. And when it comes to the bad stuff, there are two kinds of people: Those who stress about it and those who don’t. Those who stress about it get anxious, worried, insecure, angry, and paralyzed with fear. Those who don’t stress just deal with the bad stuff and keep moving. What do they know that the others don’t? Why do they know how to live a stress-free life?

The answer is simple. They see stress for what it is and decide that they won’t take part in it. 

So what is stress? Read more

how to be happy alone

How to be happy alone

how to be happy alone

I have a couple of dear friends who are deathly afraid of being alone. They worry about it. They cry—hard—when they think about it. The source of this fear started when they were very young; their parents were not loving and literally made them feel worthless. That feeling of worthlessness stayed with them into adulthood, and affected all of their decisions and relationships. 

What does this have to do with “learning more to earn more”? A lot.  Read more

But You Don’t Live There Anymore

But You Don’t Live There Anymore

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Bad stuff happens to good people. Bad stuff causes the victim to make a vow.

“I’ll never trust anyone again.”

“I’m never going to let anyone get close to me.”

“I’m so disappointed in [someone]. I won’t let anyone do that to me again.”  Read more

How Life Works: Tests, Lessons, and Self-Mastery

How Life Works: Tests, Lessons, and Self-Mastery

When we are born, we show up as a new character in the middle of a movie. What happens next—and the success we achieve before we die—is determined by 1) the circumstances we find ourselves in and 2) what we do about them.

Most of us are driven by certain desires and dreams for our lives. As our lives progress, we pursue success. We want to do more than survive; we want to thrive and excel. We want to be exceptional, to “make a difference,” as everyone says.

In order for that to happen, we need to pass the tests we are faced with, learn lessons we can apply going forward, and then, finally, learn self-mastery, which makes life amazingly wonderful. It’s not easy. But it can be done, with just one change in your thinking. Let’s look at tests, lessons, and self-mastery.

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Want more respect? Change the way you communicate.

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We work with others – and communicate with them – all day. How others perceive us makes a big difference in how we are viewed and treated at work. Our communication habits either make it easier for people to support and promote us, or make them decide not to support and promote us.

In other words, how we communicate has a big effect on our success. It matters. A lot.
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Business 101 – The money part of business

Business 101 – The money part of business

This is a super basic article for the person who really doesn’t understand how businesses work. It’s written mostly for teenagers who haven’t been taught anything about business (except maybe that businesses are terrible).

The first thing I need to say is that businesses, on the whole, are NOT terrible.

The second thing I need to say is that there is a BIG difference between small (and medium) businesses and very large businesses. This isn’t true in all cases – there are actually some pretty OK large businesses – but they are rare. It’s like the difference between Southwest Airlines, which is filled with friendly workers, and United, which I walked away from forever even though I had 100,000 frequent flyer miles I could be using. Read more