how to be happy alone

How to be happy alone

how to be happy alone

I have a couple of dear friends who are deathly afraid of being alone. They worry about it. They cry—hard—when they think about it. The source of this fear started when they were very young; their parents were not loving and literally made them feel worthless. That feeling of worthlessness stayed with them into adulthood, and affected all of their decisions and relationships. 

What does this have to do with “learning more to earn more”? A lot.  Read more

But You Don’t Live There Anymore

But You Don’t Live There Anymore

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Bad stuff happens to good people. Bad stuff causes the victim to make a vow.

“I’ll never trust anyone again.”

“I’m never going to let anyone get close to me.”

“I’m so disappointed in [someone]. I won’t let anyone do that to me again.”  Read more

How Life Works: Tests, Lessons, and Self-Mastery

How Life Works: Tests, Lessons, and Self-Mastery

When we are born, we show up as a new character in the middle of a movie. What happens next—and the success we achieve before we die—is determined by 1) the circumstances we find ourselves in and 2) what we do about them.

Most of us are driven by certain desires and dreams for our lives. As our lives progress, we pursue success. We want to do more than survive; we want to thrive and excel. We want to be exceptional, to “make a difference,” as everyone says.

In order for that to happen, we need to pass the tests we are faced with, learn lessons we can apply going forward, and then, finally, learn self-mastery, which makes life amazingly wonderful. It’s not easy. But it can be done, with just one change in your thinking. Let’s look at tests, lessons, and self-mastery.

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Want more respect? Change the way you communicate.


We work with others – and communicate with them – all day. How others perceive us makes a big difference in how we are viewed and treated at work. Our communication habits either make it easier for people to support and promote us, or make them decide not to support and promote us.

In other words, how we communicate has a big effect on our success. It matters. A lot.
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Business 101 – The money part of business

Business 101 – The money part of business

This is a super basic article for the person who really doesn’t understand how businesses work. It’s written mostly for teenagers who haven’t been taught anything about business (except maybe that businesses are terrible).

The first thing I need to say is that businesses, on the whole, are NOT terrible.

The second thing I need to say is that there is a BIG difference between small (and medium) businesses and very large businesses. This isn’t true in all cases – there are actually some pretty OK large businesses – but they are rare. It’s like the difference between Southwest Airlines, which is filled with friendly workers, and United, which I walked away from forever even though I had 100,000 frequent flyer miles I could be using. Read more

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Business 101 – How to be employable

It’s easier than ever to find work, and for companies to find people. There are a number of sites that will let you work from home, like, no matter where you live. There are dozens of job boards online.

That’s not the problem. The problem is, once you start looking asking for interviews, you need to be employable.

And, if you’re starting a business, you need to be someone people want to hire.

So. Let’s look at this, this way.

You will NOT be hired, or given more work, if you:

  • Can’t write English.
  • Are discourteous, dismissive, or rude.
  • Don’t understand what really needs to be done or how to work with others.
  • Are not effective with today’s technical tools.

So. Read more

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Business – English – Tech: Start Here

They don’t teach this stuff in school, and yet, when you get out of school, you are faced with the prospect of working for 40+ years.

Chances are, you will work in a business, or even start your own business.

In fact, your success in life – your ability to support  yourself and your family and have enough money to retire comfortably, and enjoy the options that enough money gives you – will depend on your knowledge of business, English (mostly writing, in the universal language of commerce), and technology. Read more